2011-07-07
The Key To Saving My Relationship
John is a workaholic and doesn’t spend enough time with his wife. Jane is deeply involved in their children s Life and spends most of her day tending to their needs. John feels Jane doesn’t try to meet his needs. Can this relationship be saved? Or is it doomed to fail? What are some positive steps they can take to save this relationship.
Couples stay together many times for the wrong reasons. Staying together for the children or because it a matter of convenience is just not enough for a lasting healthy relationship. In order to save a relationship both parties must make a true commitment to make it last.
Have you asked yourself, "Is this relationship worth saving?"Just about every relationship can be save with some hard work, but the couple must come to terms together to make it work. There is not much that can be done if one party refuses to try any longer.
The next step in how to save a relationship is get to the root the problem or problems in the relationship. I say get to the root of the problem because sometimes the symptom of the problem can be perceived as the problem itself. Let me give you an example; You can easily confuse an affair as being the cause of a relationship break up. When in truth, the affair is just a reaction to a deeper underlying problem. Maybe the lack of true intimacy forced one of the parties to find it else where. If you don’t deal with the intimacy problem, you may be able stop an other affair but some sort of other problem will eventually pop up. Dealing with core issues instead of the symptoms is key to saving a relationship. After you have gotten to the root of the real problem or problems you can start to come together on how to resolve the core issues
Holding your partners hand while listening to their concerns is a great way to start the reconnecting process. If your partner touches on a subject that is painful for you remember, he or she is not doing this to hurt you. They trying to improve your relationship. Now that you have the problem or problems out in the open. Together you can come up with a plan of action to work on them. Stick to your plan and take positive step toward a renewed healthy relationship.
In the hustle and bustle of our daily lives it is easy to over look the importance of spending time with our loved ones. When trying to save a relationship, it is a good idea to make a weekly date night with your partner. Studies have shown, couples who schedule at least one night a week that they can steel away together, last longer,live longer and are happier for it.
Don’t give up. Remember that saving a relationship is an on going process. Commit to the saving the relationship and take positive steps needed to do so. Except that there is going to be bumps in the road that you will have to deal with. The key is to deal with them sooner rather than later, so as to prevent them festering into another symptom.
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